Have a Father’s Day Health Talk

Now, before you panic, this isn’t about turning the day into a doctor’s appointment. It’s about engaging in thoughtful, caring conversations that show your dad how much you value him—and not just as the family storyteller or handyman, but as someone you want around for a long, healthy time. Here are some ways to have a productive conversation that is important for his health—and yours.

Parents may be somewhat reluctant to answer these questions from their adult children. The key to bringing up health topics with an older parent is tone. You’re not a drill sergeant or a physician. You’re someone who loves him and just wants to make sure everything’s in good shape—physically and emotionally.

Start small. Maybe you mention something your own doctor recently told you, or bring up how your friend’s dad had a health scare and it made them realize they had no idea where his medical records were. That kind of opening can naturally lead into a relaxed conversation.

You might say:

“Hey Dad, do you have a good system for keeping your health info in one place? I’ve been trying to do that for myself lately. Figured I’d ask while we’re sitting here.”

Or:

“Out of curiosity—do you know much about our family health history? I’m trying to be a little more proactive, and you’re my favorite source.”

Make it mutual. It may be easier for your dad to open up if it doesn’t feel like a one-way interrogation. Share something about your own routines or challenges. Maybe you’re trying to exercise more, drink less caffeine, or understand your cholesterol results. After all, learning about your family’s health history can help you make informed decisions about your own health care in the future. Let him know that you’re also thinking about your long-term health to shift the energy from “I’m worried about you” to “We’re in this together.”

You could even brainstorm something fun to do together—such as walking more, trying a new recipe, or looking into a new hobby that keeps you both active like pickleball. If he’s resistant to change, just plant the seed. Conversations like this don’t have to result in a big decision on the spot. Sometimes, it’s enough just to start.

However the conversation goes, wrap it up with appreciation. Thank him for talking about something that isn’t always easy. Tell him you’re proud of how he’s taking care of himself—and if he’s not, gently remind him you’re here to help however he needs.

Because at the end of the day, Father’s Day is about honoring who he is—and showing up for him the way he’s shown up for you.